Shonnetta’s Divine Tarot

How To Raise Your Vibration And De-Stress

In this video, Shonnetta (of Shonnetta’s Divine Tarot) shares her top tips on how to raise your vibration and de-stress quickly. Your subconscious mind is always running, so it’s important to ensure that the inner you is taken care of; not just the external.

The tips are simple and easy to follow, and you’ll see a change quickly after you begin your vibration raising journey.

Watch the video below, and share with us your self-care/high vibrational tips in the comment section.

20 Affirmations - Zen

20 Daily Affirmations You Need To Know

Every day should start with an affirmation. Affirmations should be put in place to remind you of your capabilities. You are able to be whoever you dream of being, and by affirming your purpose, you create your future the way you wish for it to be. Here are 20 daily affirmations that you can use to start your days.

1 – Today I choose to celebrate myself. This is my life and I am living it the way I wish to. The world is filled with things that I could be sad about, but I am making a conscious choice to observe the blessing of me, and dismiss the sadness. I am not here by accident and I have a purpose to fulfil. I am thankful for every opportunity I am to be rewarded with. I deserve to give myself a chance.

2 – Today I choose to embrace my individuality. There is no one else in the world like me and that is amazing. My journey was crafted specifically for me and I will stay in my own lane, without trying to join anyone else’s. Others have what they have because it has been written for them, and what has been written for me is coming to me in divine timing. There is something that I have right now that others wish for, as others have things now that I wish for. We are all awaiting blessings. We are all on a track to the same place, but we are on different roads. It is not a race. I am in competition with nobody.

3 – Today I choose to practice good manners and show gratitude. I will send thank you’s to the source of my highest beliefs for everything. I am going to show my appreciation for everything that people do for me, even if it their actions are expected. I remember to expect nothing, because nothing is owed to me. All that I am given is gifted to me and for those gifts I must give thanks.

4 – Today I choose to be aware. Aware of everything around me. I will smell flowers and smile at strangers. I will spend less time staring at my phone and more time talking to my loved ones. I am living, not existing. I am embracing all of my surroundings and enjoying the beauty that is life.

5 – Today I choose to dream. Life is so fast and it is very easy for me to get lost in what I have to do, and not what I want to do. I’m going to think about who I want to be, and what I need to do to make my dreams come true. Before today is over, I will have a plan of action on how to get one step closer to my dream.

6 – Today I choose to find light in all of my darkness. This is the day of the purge. I will revisit my darkest moments that are hurting me deep down, and I will find a positive in every negative. If I feel failed at thinking of something nice to say about what I went through, then my default positive note to self is: “I made it through that experience to see another day, which means that I gave myself a chance to heal. I am grateful for my chances”.

7 – Today I choose to find happiness in my gestures, regardless of my circumstances. I will do something selfless and give to someone in need. I will put my time, energy and love into a gift with an aim to bring happiness to another. I will feel gratitude in the fact that I am able to give to another and I will not dwell on what I do, or do not, have. Today is not about what is wrong in my life, it is about making something right in the life of another.

8 – Today I choose to make a change. The pressures I feel against me are a result of my soul rejecting what is not for me. I will not fight against it. Instead, I will allow myself to naturally be rerouted onto my rightful lane. The destination hasn’t changed but my method of transport has. I embrace the change.

9 – Today I choose to show love. I will reach out to those that I love and let them know what they mean to me, including those that I am not seeing eye to eye with. Life is too short and tomorrow isn’t promised. I will remove the burden of regret for those that I care about, including myself, that would be a result of unspoken I love you’s. Today I am loving.

10 – Today I choose kindness. My doubts and insecurities about myself and others are unkind. I refuse to let negativity act as a reflection of myself. I will not receive unkind comments from those external to my being. I will not develop internal cruelties about myself. I am aware that I am rare and amazing in my entirety. I am kind.

11 – Today I choose to face my fears. There is something that I have been avoiding due to the fear of things not working out in my favour. I will not be able to receive my blessings if I avoid the hurdles in front of me. I will not be afraid. I will take the first step forward and stand tall as I face my challenges. I am not scared.

12 – Today I choose to understand. I am not incapable of understanding the information that I have received. I am listening and I am observing thoroughly. This is not a mistake. Everything that is happening is happening for a reason; and I know what that reason is. I am not ignorant. I am not a victim. Nothing is happening to me. I will allow my intuition to lead me to being able to understand my circumstances. My intuition will not fail me. My intuition is my higher self. My higher self has the answer. I have the answer.

13 – Today I choose to be calm. I will make time for meditation and prayer. I will not respond to negativity. I will not be taken out of my character. I will not be bothered about what should not concern me. I will absorb peace and exude peace with every breath that I take. I am not anxious. I am not stressed. My mind is quiet and external noise cannot harm my relaxed being.

14 – Today I choose to enjoy myself. I will not make excuses as to why I cannot be happy. I will remember my happy moments and reminisce on my favourite things. My favourite colours, my favourite scents, my favourite stories and my favourite places. Today I will create another favourite memory, as I choose enjoyment over sorrow.

15 – Today I choose education. My purpose includes making a change in the world. I will not be able to fulfil that purpose without education. What I learn today may not be for me. I will not be selfish and closed-minded to learning what is being taught to me. I will be a student of life today, in order to enable myself to share my newfound knowledge with others. Good students make good teachers. Today I prepare to be a good teacher.

16 – Today I choose to be healthy. I will be healthy mentally, spiritually and physically. I will drink more water. I will eat clean. I will steer clear of gossip. I will exercise. I will sweat out the negative toxins that have consumed me. I will rise early and have a productive day. I will treat myself to an early night, pampering myself before I lay my head. Today I will not allow any illness of the mind, spirit or physical to prevail. I am the embodiment of good health and sickness does not live here.

17 – Today I choose to fight for what I want. Nothing worth having comes easy. I will not be lazy or halfhearted. I will work harder. I will stay focused. I will say how I feel to those I feel for. I will stand up for what I believe in. I will not let today pass without standing up for myself.

18 – Today I choose to appreciate life. I am awake and I am breathing. I have lived to see a new day and it shall not go wasted. I am thankful for life. I will show gratitude to the most high. The power of love is invested in me. I am aware that life is a blessing and I am privileged to be here. Life has been granted to me and I will remain appreciative for the gift of living.

19 – Today I choose to let my soul dance. I will reflect on my past traumas and those of my ancestors. I will remember that I deserve to dance. I will create my own music in my mind and my soul will not stand still. The blood that pumps through my veins is the base blasting through my inner speakers. The world may be loud but my soundtrack is louder. I will not stop dancing.

20 – Today I choose to clear my mind. I will remove clutter from my surroundings. I will clean and organise. I will write a list, on paper, and complete the tasks that I assign myself. Today I am not flowing carelessly. I am flowing carefully. I am freeing myself from confusion. My plate is unnecessarily full. I am removing everything unhealthy that is being fed to me. I am on a clear mind diet. I am cleansing.

Do you have any affirmations that help you get through your days? Share them with us in the comments, and let us know if this list of 20 daily affirmations helps you.

Sydnee Leu How to Choose Yourself

Learn How To Choose Yourself First For Self-Care

Do you struggle with putting yourself first? Perhaps you’re a mother and your children have such busy schedules that you forget to take a break for yourself. Or maybe you’re a big sister that never knows how to say ‘no’ to her younger siblings. Whether you put others before yourself at home, or at work, we’re here to remind you that it’s ok to put yourself first. Not only is it ok, but it is vital!

Many people avoid putting themselves first out of fear that they will appear selfish. However, protecting your mental wellbeing is not selfish. It is a form of self care.

YouTuber Sydnee Leu discussed ‘How To: Choose Yourself’ in her video (below), after reading James Altucher’s ‘Choose Yourself’. She shared tips on how those who are always trying to please others, and do for others, need to establish some boundaries. It’s not fair that those who give the most to others are given the short end of the stick in return. But what you allow is what you will receive. If you want others to chose you, and care about your feelings like you care about theirs, firstly you must choose yourself.

There is nothing wrong with being a helpful and generous person. It’s a great trait to have. However, the most kindhearted people are often hurt the most as their kindness is sometimes taken as a weakness. And if boundaries aren’t put in place soon enough, those kindhearted people may get hurt so much that they decide not to be kind anymore. But being kind is a huge strength!

In order to keep that strength alive, we must be kind to, and choose, ourselves first. Then, we can help others. With our boundaries in place we can eliminate those that do not deserve our time and energy, and engage in mutual exchanges of kindness and care from those that also choose themselves—whilst choosing to keep their kind hearts in tact.

To learn some tips (and tricks) on how to put yourself first—without feeling guilty, watch Sydnee’s ‘How To: Choose Yourself’ video below.

Let us know if this video helps you, and please share any tips that you have! If you find this video useful, follow Sydnee on Instagram to keep up with her self-care tips. 

Halfietruths Kenya Raymer

Setting And Respecting Boundaries For Peace Of Mind

Ladies, it’s time for us to set some boundaries!

Boundaries allow us to accept into our lives what we deserve, whilst declining offerings of negativity. From the littlest boundary, to the biggest, it is important that we set as many boundaries as required to ensure that we are surrounded by love and light at all times. Are you the kind of person that never sets boundaries? Do you struggle to turn people down? Do you want to set boundaries but have no idea where to start? Well, there’s no need to worry about that anymore, as we have found some amazing tips for you.

Below is a video of Kenya Raymer, known as Halfie Truths, talking about setting and respecting boundaries. She is spreading a vital message to those that say ‘yes’, when they really want to say ‘no’, because they’re afraid of hurting the feelings of another person. Not only is it okay for people to set boundaries, and be willing to say ‘no’, but it is actually very important to do so. For the benefit of your mental and emotional well-being. And in this video, Kenya is letting us know just how important setting and respecting boundaries is.

Kenya reminds us of the value of our time, whilst teaching us how to put ourselves before others. After all, we can’t expect anybody else to care for us if we are not first taking care of ourselves. One of the great examples that she uses is when referring to an oxygen mask on an aeroplane. We must put our masks on first, before helping the person next to us put theirs on; even if next to us is a child, or an elderly person. That scenario is reflected in day-to-day society. We can’t help somebody else unless we have first helped our self. But many of us try to do that. And that can be emotionally draining, to say the least.

If you don’t feel like talking today, don’t talk. We must learn to never feel pressured into forgetting our boundaries because others expect us to be readily available at their beck and call. We are allowed to say ‘no’. We are allowed to say ‘not today’. We are allowed to decline an apology, and refuse to give people another chance to hurt us. In other words, we are allowed to set boundaries . And others must respect those boundaries. Especially those that want to be in our lives. A There is nothing wrong with protect your peace.

Watch Kenya talk about ‘Boundaries’ below for some tips on how to set some boundaries in your life. There is nothing wrong with protecting your peace. This should be a reminder to you.

Let us know your boundaries, and how enforcing them in your life has helped. If you enjoy, follow Kenya on Instagram to keep up with her self-care tips.

The Sister Mums

Get Involved In Our ‘Dear Younger Self’ Project!

We are looking for females (of all ages) to get involved in our ‘Dear Younger Self’ project.

‘Dear Younger Self’ is a project that The Sister Mums are working on, where we will be collecting as many letters/poems as possible to raise funds for charity. In order to get involved you must identify as female. The letter (or poem) must be between 300-1500 words, and touch on an experience (or period in life) where you once felt low, but are now able to see the brighter side of the situation. You could touch on multiple stages in life, multiple scenarios, or focus on just one. The deadline is August 1. 

Whether you’re a professional writer, or haven’t written anything in a while, we want your letters. We will edit the letters before publishing (fixing any spelling mistakes, but not deleting/changing your words), to remove any pressure that you feel to make your submission perfect. It’s your story, and there’s no wrong way to express it. Please don’t be worried to share your story.

There is an option to be anonymous, however we would prefer names, or nicknames. Still, no pressure.

Our aim is to publish the letters to help females heal from their pasts, whilst giving a positive voice to young girls worldwide, that feel like they’re not being heard. We’ve been there, and probably done that, and it’s important to ensure young ladies are aware that they are not alone. Whilst we remind ourselves of the same thing. Including a few tips on how to get to the brighter side of the tunnel. And a final reminder that females are so strong!

To get involved, contact @TheSisterMums on Twitter, or Instagram, to request the email address to send submissions to.