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Meagan Good Shares Why It’s Important To Help Young Women

Meagan Good joins Tom Bilyeu for an in-depth conversation about her career journey, how to achieve your goals and how she supports other women.

Meagan works with a lot of young women, and in this interview she explains her reasons for doing so, and how she goes about helping them. She also speaks on the most important woman in her world, her mother and inspiration, and shares how her mother has impacted her life journey.

As well as being an insightful interview about Meagan’s career, she also delves deep to give inspiration and motivation to others; sharing how to stay hungry after reaching success. And she also speaks about her book, The Wait, which she co-author’s with her husband, DeVon Franklin.

Check out the interview in the video below, and share your thoughts with us in the comment section below.

Why Men Are Intimidated By You

In the lifetime of every strong woman, there will be a man who finds them intimidating. Some will tell you directly that you’re “too much” for them, or that they’re “not good enough” for you, which is all code for them feeling like they cannot afford you; for one of many reasons.

YouTuber Breeny Lee discusses this topic in her latest video, where she breaks it down into three parts: you are intimidating, you are dating down and you are too expensive.

Make yourself a drink, put your feet up, and watch the video below. Share your thoughts, or experiences, with us in the comments section. We’d like to know if this video has been helpful to you!

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Silence The Shame: A Panel On Depression And Mental Health

Keri Hilson, Necole Kane, Shanti Das, and more open up on their battles with depression and mental health.

This panel gives a very insightful look into the minds of mental health and depression. From a singer, to a blogger, the guests vary and all share different views on their battles with the same mental illnesses. It is a comfortably uncomfortable conversation that will resonate with many, opening up wounds and patching them back together again.

Watch the video below to see the conversation. Let us know your thoughts on social media.

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20 Daily Affirmations You Need To Know

Every day should start with an affirmation. Affirmations should be put in place to remind you of your capabilities. You are able to be whoever you dream of being, and by affirming your purpose, you create your future the way you wish for it to be. Here are 20 daily affirmations that you can use to start your days.

1 – Today I choose to celebrate myself. This is my life and I am living it the way I wish to. The world is filled with things that I could be sad about, but I am making a conscious choice to observe the blessing of me, and dismiss the sadness. I am not here by accident and I have a purpose to fulfil. I am thankful for every opportunity I am to be rewarded with. I deserve to give myself a chance.

2 – Today I choose to embrace my individuality. There is no one else in the world like me and that is amazing. My journey was crafted specifically for me and I will stay in my own lane, without trying to join anyone else’s. Others have what they have because it has been written for them, and what has been written for me is coming to me in divine timing. There is something that I have right now that others wish for, as others have things now that I wish for. We are all awaiting blessings. We are all on a track to the same place, but we are on different roads. It is not a race. I am in competition with nobody.

3 – Today I choose to practice good manners and show gratitude. I will send thank you’s to the source of my highest beliefs for everything. I am going to show my appreciation for everything that people do for me, even if it their actions are expected. I remember to expect nothing, because nothing is owed to me. All that I am given is gifted to me and for those gifts I must give thanks.

4 – Today I choose to be aware. Aware of everything around me. I will smell flowers and smile at strangers. I will spend less time staring at my phone and more time talking to my loved ones. I am living, not existing. I am embracing all of my surroundings and enjoying the beauty that is life.

5 – Today I choose to dream. Life is so fast and it is very easy for me to get lost in what I have to do, and not what I want to do. I’m going to think about who I want to be, and what I need to do to make my dreams come true. Before today is over, I will have a plan of action on how to get one step closer to my dream.

6 – Today I choose to find light in all of my darkness. This is the day of the purge. I will revisit my darkest moments that are hurting me deep down, and I will find a positive in every negative. If I feel failed at thinking of something nice to say about what I went through, then my default positive note to self is: “I made it through that experience to see another day, which means that I gave myself a chance to heal. I am grateful for my chances”.

7 – Today I choose to find happiness in my gestures, regardless of my circumstances. I will do something selfless and give to someone in need. I will put my time, energy and love into a gift with an aim to bring happiness to another. I will feel gratitude in the fact that I am able to give to another and I will not dwell on what I do, or do not, have. Today is not about what is wrong in my life, it is about making something right in the life of another.

8 – Today I choose to make a change. The pressures I feel against me are a result of my soul rejecting what is not for me. I will not fight against it. Instead, I will allow myself to naturally be rerouted onto my rightful lane. The destination hasn’t changed but my method of transport has. I embrace the change.

9 – Today I choose to show love. I will reach out to those that I love and let them know what they mean to me, including those that I am not seeing eye to eye with. Life is too short and tomorrow isn’t promised. I will remove the burden of regret for those that I care about, including myself, that would be a result of unspoken I love you’s. Today I am loving.

10 – Today I choose kindness. My doubts and insecurities about myself and others are unkind. I refuse to let negativity act as a reflection of myself. I will not receive unkind comments from those external to my being. I will not develop internal cruelties about myself. I am aware that I am rare and amazing in my entirety. I am kind.

11 – Today I choose to face my fears. There is something that I have been avoiding due to the fear of things not working out in my favour. I will not be able to receive my blessings if I avoid the hurdles in front of me. I will not be afraid. I will take the first step forward and stand tall as I face my challenges. I am not scared.

12 – Today I choose to understand. I am not incapable of understanding the information that I have received. I am listening and I am observing thoroughly. This is not a mistake. Everything that is happening is happening for a reason; and I know what that reason is. I am not ignorant. I am not a victim. Nothing is happening to me. I will allow my intuition to lead me to being able to understand my circumstances. My intuition will not fail me. My intuition is my higher self. My higher self has the answer. I have the answer.

13 – Today I choose to be calm. I will make time for meditation and prayer. I will not respond to negativity. I will not be taken out of my character. I will not be bothered about what should not concern me. I will absorb peace and exude peace with every breath that I take. I am not anxious. I am not stressed. My mind is quiet and external noise cannot harm my relaxed being.

14 – Today I choose to enjoy myself. I will not make excuses as to why I cannot be happy. I will remember my happy moments and reminisce on my favourite things. My favourite colours, my favourite scents, my favourite stories and my favourite places. Today I will create another favourite memory, as I choose enjoyment over sorrow.

15 – Today I choose education. My purpose includes making a change in the world. I will not be able to fulfil that purpose without education. What I learn today may not be for me. I will not be selfish and closed-minded to learning what is being taught to me. I will be a student of life today, in order to enable myself to share my newfound knowledge with others. Good students make good teachers. Today I prepare to be a good teacher.

16 – Today I choose to be healthy. I will be healthy mentally, spiritually and physically. I will drink more water. I will eat clean. I will steer clear of gossip. I will exercise. I will sweat out the negative toxins that have consumed me. I will rise early and have a productive day. I will treat myself to an early night, pampering myself before I lay my head. Today I will not allow any illness of the mind, spirit or physical to prevail. I am the embodiment of good health and sickness does not live here.

17 – Today I choose to fight for what I want. Nothing worth having comes easy. I will not be lazy or halfhearted. I will work harder. I will stay focused. I will say how I feel to those I feel for. I will stand up for what I believe in. I will not let today pass without standing up for myself.

18 – Today I choose to appreciate life. I am awake and I am breathing. I have lived to see a new day and it shall not go wasted. I am thankful for life. I will show gratitude to the most high. The power of love is invested in me. I am aware that life is a blessing and I am privileged to be here. Life has been granted to me and I will remain appreciative for the gift of living.

19 – Today I choose to let my soul dance. I will reflect on my past traumas and those of my ancestors. I will remember that I deserve to dance. I will create my own music in my mind and my soul will not stand still. The blood that pumps through my veins is the base blasting through my inner speakers. The world may be loud but my soundtrack is louder. I will not stop dancing.

20 – Today I choose to clear my mind. I will remove clutter from my surroundings. I will clean and organise. I will write a list, on paper, and complete the tasks that I assign myself. Today I am not flowing carelessly. I am flowing carefully. I am freeing myself from confusion. My plate is unnecessarily full. I am removing everything unhealthy that is being fed to me. I am on a clear mind diet. I am cleansing.

Do you have any affirmations that help you get through your days? Share them with us in the comments, and let us know if this list of 20 daily affirmations helps you.

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30 Second Therapy With Emilia Ortiz

We don’t all have the time to attend a therapy session, although it’s important that eventually we do find the time, as therapy is healing. Luckily, spiritual advisor Emilia Ortiz has compacted therapy into 30 seconds, to give you a little pick me up. Check it out in the video below, and share with those that may need it.

Therapy isn’t complete until you have paid forward what you have learned.

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The Open University Helped Me Accomplish My Goals

As I scraped the grades necessary, my excitement to apply for university, or college to many, filled my veins and my soul twitched. Finally, I was about to experience the thrilling milestone that I had so anxiously prepared for since childhood. It seemed to good to be true—and it almost was.

The illness that had been slowly creeping up on me over the years had finally caught me. I knew that my condition was only worsening, and not only would my grades decline because brain-fog was becoming a regular occurrence, but my years of working in a corporate job were limited. “One day”, I thought, “I’ll have to retire early due to my health.” Did I even have time to go to university, before finding a full-time job in the career that I was aiming for, or would I have to give up my dreams and work a “regular” job; so that I would at least have the chance to save for my future, before ending up on disability allowance—with a limited income?

I chose the regular job, and pushed my dreams aside. Balancing hospital appointments whilst working tired me out more than enough, so I felt that I had made the right decision—even if it meant watching my peers enjoy the university experience without me. Maybe my dream wasn’t meant to come true, I thought, and I would be able to fill the seemingly empty space on my list of achievements with something other than a degree.

Then, something changed inside of me. I remembered who I was, and how passionate I was about chasing my dreams. Accepting defeat was not me, and I had to shake it off. I knew that I wouldn’t be given the ability to dream, if it was impossible to make my dreams come true. Yet, I also knew that my reasons for not going to university, the conventional way, were valid. How could I still get my degree, whilst working the full-time job that I had secured; and would eventually have to leave due to my health? That’s when I found the Open University.

I found The Open University on a search engine, and the way that I found it reassures me that my sixth sense wasn’t wrong. There must be a secret agent reading my mind at all times, because just as I was thinking about how I could study alongside work, The Open University started showing up on my search engines every day. I wasn’t searching anything associated with studies, let alone distance learning—but it found me.

It wasn’t a conventional university, and I could learn from a distance—in my own time. This meant that it was all on me. I’d miss out on the campus university experience but I finally had a way to get my degree. It worked around my illness and made it possible for me to continue working enough to save—without accommodation debts. All I had to do was motivate myself, and not waste my opportunity.

That was four years ago.

Now, after changing my course—which put me a year behind, I’m only months away from graduating. I’ve managed to make it this far, juggling my work and studies, and I’m almost at the finish line—that, for a while, I never imagined I’d see.

Also, as predicted, my time working in the corporate world has also come to an end. My health continued to deteriorate, which affected how much I could work in an office-based organisational structure. Cutting my hours down didn’t help enough, and eventually it was decided that I was unfit for work. I was forced to resign.

However, due to realising that I could juggle so much whilst feeling so unable, I felt courageous. The courage I felt for accomplishing so much, to myself, inspired me to share a passion of mine that I also crossed off my list when I was diagnosed with my condition. Writing.

I started to share my writing on social media, and instantly people appreciated it. It was motivation to make my dream come true. Again, I was reminded: I wouldn’t be given the ability to dream, if it was impossible for my dreams to come true. With that being said, not only am I almost finished university, my fear didn’t come true. I’m not restricted financially.

Yes, I had to resign due to my disability; but I’m still able to work—doing what I love. I’m a Freelance Writer now; able to work from home or the hospital bed, if need be; and I’m happy.

My university, or college, experience hasn’t been what I expected—it’s been even better. I’ve worked hard, I’ve made myself proud and I didn’t let life defeat me. Thanks to The Open University, this  has been a time in my life that will never be forgotten. University has been a huge part of my story and I’m forever grateful.

Written by Liss Morales