Sydnee Leu How to Choose Yourself

Learn How To Choose Yourself First For Self-Care

Do you struggle with putting yourself first? Perhaps you’re a mother and your children have such busy schedules that you forget to take a break for yourself. Or maybe you’re a big sister that never knows how to say ‘no’ to her younger siblings. Whether you put others before yourself at home, or at work, we’re here to remind you that it’s ok to put yourself first. Not only is it ok, but it is vital!

Many people avoid putting themselves first out of fear that they will appear selfish. However, protecting your mental wellbeing is not selfish. It is a form of self care.

YouTuber Sydnee Leu discussed ‘How To: Choose Yourself’ in her video (below), after reading James Altucher’s ‘Choose Yourself’. She shared tips on how those who are always trying to please others, and do for others, need to establish some boundaries. It’s not fair that those who give the most to others are given the short end of the stick in return. But what you allow is what you will receive. If you want others to chose you, and care about your feelings like you care about theirs, firstly you must choose yourself.

There is nothing wrong with being a helpful and generous person. It’s a great trait to have. However, the most kindhearted people are often hurt the most as their kindness is sometimes taken as a weakness. And if boundaries aren’t put in place soon enough, those kindhearted people may get hurt so much that they decide not to be kind anymore. But being kind is a huge strength!

In order to keep that strength alive, we must be kind to, and choose, ourselves first. Then, we can help others. With our boundaries in place we can eliminate those that do not deserve our time and energy, and engage in mutual exchanges of kindness and care from those that also choose themselves—whilst choosing to keep their kind hearts in tact.

To learn some tips (and tricks) on how to put yourself first—without feeling guilty, watch Sydnee’s ‘How To: Choose Yourself’ video below.

Let us know if this video helps you, and please share any tips that you have! If you find this video useful, follow Sydnee on Instagram to keep up with her self-care tips. 

The Pressure Trap heather Lindsey

Breaking Free From ‘The Pressure Trap’ Of Society To Be Who You’re Destined To Be

Do you currently feel stressed out and pressured about your life, or an aspect of it? Do people expect you to be someone that you’re not? Do you feel torn between God and your loved ones? If you’re currently struggling with societies expectations of who you should be then The Pressure Trap is for you.

Heather Lindsey exposes how to be free from the pressures of society so that you can do what God has called you to do at the fullest of your abilities. Choose not to get caught in the trap of being pressured by this world, by breaking free to do what God has called you to do. The Pressure Trap will give you the guidance required to take the necessary steps to break free.

In this book, Heather tackles being pressured for those who are single, married, parents, struggling with family pressure and battling issues in their work life. And so much more!

You can purchase The Pressure Trap on Pinky Promise Boutique or Amazon.

Let us know what makes you feel pressured, and also tell us if you’ve read The Pressure Trap and how it’s helped you. If you enjoy, follow Heather on Instagram to keep up with all of her endeavours!


Halfietruths Kenya Raymer

Setting And Respecting Boundaries For Peace Of Mind

Ladies, it’s time for us to set some boundaries!

Boundaries allow us to accept into our lives what we deserve, whilst declining offerings of negativity. From the littlest boundary, to the biggest, it is important that we set as many boundaries as required to ensure that we are surrounded by love and light at all times. Are you the kind of person that never sets boundaries? Do you struggle to turn people down? Do you want to set boundaries but have no idea where to start? Well, there’s no need to worry about that anymore, as we have found some amazing tips for you.

Below is a video of Kenya Raymer, known as Halfie Truths, talking about setting and respecting boundaries. She is spreading a vital message to those that say ‘yes’, when they really want to say ‘no’, because they’re afraid of hurting the feelings of another person. Not only is it okay for people to set boundaries, and be willing to say ‘no’, but it is actually very important to do so. For the benefit of your mental and emotional well-being. And in this video, Kenya is letting us know just how important setting and respecting boundaries is.

Kenya reminds us of the value of our time, whilst teaching us how to put ourselves before others. After all, we can’t expect anybody else to care for us if we are not first taking care of ourselves. One of the great examples that she uses is when referring to an oxygen mask on an aeroplane. We must put our masks on first, before helping the person next to us put theirs on; even if next to us is a child, or an elderly person. That scenario is reflected in day-to-day society. We can’t help somebody else unless we have first helped our self. But many of us try to do that. And that can be emotionally draining, to say the least.

If you don’t feel like talking today, don’t talk. We must learn to never feel pressured into forgetting our boundaries because others expect us to be readily available at their beck and call. We are allowed to say ‘no’. We are allowed to say ‘not today’. We are allowed to decline an apology, and refuse to give people another chance to hurt us. In other words, we are allowed to set boundaries . And others must respect those boundaries. Especially those that want to be in our lives. A There is nothing wrong with protect your peace.

Watch Kenya talk about ‘Boundaries’ below for some tips on how to set some boundaries in your life. There is nothing wrong with protecting your peace. This should be a reminder to you.

Let us know your boundaries, and how enforcing them in your life has helped. If you enjoy, follow Kenya on Instagram to keep up with her self-care tips.

The Sister Mums

Get Involved In Our ‘Dear Younger Self’ Project!

We are looking for females (of all ages) to get involved in our ‘Dear Younger Self’ project.

‘Dear Younger Self’ is a project that The Sister Mums are working on, where we will be collecting as many letters/poems as possible to raise funds for charity. In order to get involved you must identify as female. The letter (or poem) must be between 300-1500 words, and touch on an experience (or period in life) where you once felt low, but are now able to see the brighter side of the situation. You could touch on multiple stages in life, multiple scenarios, or focus on just one. The deadline is August 1. 

Whether you’re a professional writer, or haven’t written anything in a while, we want your letters. We will edit the letters before publishing (fixing any spelling mistakes, but not deleting/changing your words), to remove any pressure that you feel to make your submission perfect. It’s your story, and there’s no wrong way to express it. Please don’t be worried to share your story.

There is an option to be anonymous, however we would prefer names, or nicknames. Still, no pressure.

Our aim is to publish the letters to help females heal from their pasts, whilst giving a positive voice to young girls worldwide, that feel like they’re not being heard. We’ve been there, and probably done that, and it’s important to ensure young ladies are aware that they are not alone. Whilst we remind ourselves of the same thing. Including a few tips on how to get to the brighter side of the tunnel. And a final reminder that females are so strong!

To get involved, contact @TheSisterMums on Twitter, or Instagram, to request the email address to send submissions to.