Do you struggle with putting yourself first? Perhaps you’re a mother and your children have such busy schedules that you forget to take a break for yourself. Or maybe you’re a big sister that never knows how to say ‘no’ to her younger siblings. Whether you put others before yourself at home, or at work, we’re here to remind you that it’s ok to put yourself first. Not only is it ok, but it is vital!
Many people avoid putting themselves first out of fear that they will appear selfish. However, protecting your mental wellbeing is not selfish. It is a form of self care.
YouTuber Sydnee Leu discussed ‘How To: Choose Yourself’ in her video (below), after reading James Altucher’s ‘Choose Yourself’. She shared tips on how those who are always trying to please others, and do for others, need to establish some boundaries. It’s not fair that those who give the most to others are given the short end of the stick in return. But what you allow is what you will receive. If you want others to chose you, and care about your feelings like you care about theirs, firstly you must choose yourself.
There is nothing wrong with being a helpful and generous person. It’s a great trait to have. However, the most kindhearted people are often hurt the most as their kindness is sometimes taken as a weakness. And if boundaries aren’t put in place soon enough, those kindhearted people may get hurt so much that they decide not to be kind anymore. But being kind is a huge strength!
In order to keep that strength alive, we must be kind to, and choose, ourselves first. Then, we can help others. With our boundaries in place we can eliminate those that do not deserve our time and energy, and engage in mutual exchanges of kindness and care from those that also choose themselves—whilst choosing to keep their kind hearts in tact.
To learn some tips (and tricks) on how to put yourself first—without feeling guilty, watch Sydnee’s ‘How To: Choose Yourself’ video below.
Let us know if this video helps you, and please share any tips that you have! If you find this video useful, follow Sydnee on Instagram to keep up with her self-care tips.